Should I just pull it all?
Last spring, my upstairs neighbor A asked me to "help" her spruce up her front porch; make it homey, like mine. It's a fun space, three times the size of mine, and I agreed. I okayed everything with upstairs neighbor B (it's a shared porch) then I went to town. Planters, hanging baskets, lighting -- I even found her a large table with matching chairs. I bought plants, divided some of mine, and put in things I'd grown from seed. I even figured out a system to easily get water from the back of the building to the second floor front porch.
We all enjoyed it last summer, together and individually. Neighbor A never made a move to pay me back any of the roughly $100 I spent, as she said she would -- but I didn't really expect to see any of it, so that wasn't a big deal. I was a bit more disappointed that she never watered anything, as she'd promised she would before we started anything. When I came back from vacation, all but the hardiest plants were goners.
So I was a little reluctant to put anything out there this summer. But... neighbor A was so interested in all the plants I started this year... and we already had the planters and soil there.... (At least I was a bit smarter this time, and only planted things I had tons of or cuttings.)
But it's really nice. The lilies are starting to bloom, the bees have discovered the flowering herbs, and the annual vines are just getting long enough to start climbing up the wrought iron. I like taking the cat and a cup of coffee up there in the morning after everyone has left for work, have a leisurely wake up before I have to go to work.
2 weeks ago neighbor B returned from a four month stint in Saudi Arabia. I left him a note, but I haven't seen him since him yet. Thursday morning when I went up to water the plants I found he'd shoved all the planters and containers off his side of the porch. Apparently he told neighbor A he wanted his side to be "clear".
I called neighbor A that evening, told her I was feeling a bit unwelcome up there, and asked her if she still wanted the plants up there. She said yes. I asked her if she was going to have the time to water the plants, since I wasn't planning on going back up unless she was there. She said she had to go, and insisted she'd call right back. Haven't heard from her in nearly a week.
I'm not sure what to do. I don't mind having made the investment, if people are enjoying what's up there. On the other hand, it's not my porch, and I don't want to impose my hobbies on other people. I don't want to feel martyred about sneaking up there to keep the plants alive, but I don't want to see them die.
Should I talk to neighbor B, and find out what he object to that he was okay with it last year? He's not very pleasant, and his mother seems convinced that I stole some of his porch furniture -- so I'm not relishing that logical next move.
Should I talk to neighbor A again, and ask if she wants the plants and will have time to water them? (Stressing how depressing it will be for both of us if they all die again.)
Should I remove the things I put up there? I don't want to seem petulant, taking my ball and going home, but I could probably find places for the plants and planters -- and I'm sure I could find some use for 40' of rope lighting.
Or should I wash my hands of the whole lot of it?
Sorry this is so long-winded, but I appreciate any advice!