Do real ladies climb trees?
Hi - First time on this forum and I came here looking to see how other people dealt with their aging bodies.
Let me preface this by saying that I am 68 years old. My husband is 78 years old and because he owns his own business and works 6 days a week, I do 98% of the gardening myself. He had a knee replaced last year and because he is scheduled for his third shoulder surgery next month, I try to keep him from doing too much as he's in constant pain right now.
Last year I climbed up about 25 feet into a tree with my little chain saw to thin out a tree that was giving me fits (I did it BEFORE my husband could tell me not to). A friend told me that "ladies our age don't climb trees". Kind of hurt my feelings... until I realized that because she hires everything done, she thinks I should do the same....not my style. I get a lot of satisfaction out of doing things myself and am convinced you either "use it or lose it".
This year I actually dreaded the onset of the gardening season (I'm a fair-weather gardener in our rainy Seattle area), and at first I could only do about an hour and a half, but once I got in the swing, I usually spend at least 4 hours a day. I try to take it easy on Wednesdays and Saturdays as those are the days we go dancing. Despite our age, younger people often ask if we are dance instructors or ask us to teach them to dance like we do. My husband is starting to like the slow dances more, but I love nothing better than dancing to 'Jump, Jive and Wail'. Although my back hurts 24/7 no matter what I do, the only time I don't hurt is when I'm dancing. Sometimes I hurt so bad I tell my husband to just get me to a dance floor and I'll be OK.....
I'm 5'4" and 116 pounds, pretty severe scoliosis and arthritis in my back, but if I can still climb trees, clean the gutters, lift, tote and all the things necessary to gardening, I'd rather do it that sit and read a book or watch TV which also makes my back hurt! So, I do as much as I can do, then hobble into the house, lay down for an hour and get up to fix dinner. I try not to take too many pills, but we all know that sometimes it's absolutely necessary. As soon as I loosen up the next morning, I'm usually good to go.
I've pretty much given up on doctors..seems all they can do is prescribe some pill that will probably kill you and I won't even think about back surgery unless/until it's absolutely necessary. The last time my husband took me to the Emergency Room when I was screaming in pain and could barely walk, they took a bunch of x-rays and gave me two prescriptions for pills that I was already taking that didn't do any good....go figure! I was able to walk in leaning on my husband's arm, but when it was time to go home, I couldn't take a single step, so they got a wheelchair to get to the car. Guess I didn't have the right kind of cadillac insurance policy. Can't help believe that it's only going to get worse with the new Obama-Care.
Please don't take any of this as bragging...I'm a definite 'Type A' personality and don't advise anyone to abuse their bodies the way I do, but hopefully some will be encouraged to just "keep on keepin' on". I just happen to think that if we expect life to be pain-free, we were born on the wrong planet. As long as I can stay active, I'd much rather do that and then slide into the Pearly Gates yellin' "WHAT A RIDE"!!