I'm working on turning my yard into the old-fashioned kind I grew up with - Sweet Betsy, spirea, crabapple,giant azaleas, not these wimpy little varieties, spider lily, carolina silver bell, lily of the valley etc. I'm interested in hearing peoples' favorites, mainly shrubs and trees but also some perennials, and also SOURCES - where to get these specimens in a world where nurseries all seem to carry the newest of the new. I'm in the Durham area. I have the Pass-Along Plants book but want more info! Thanks.