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jan_on zone 5bJune 13, 2013

Someone over on the perennial forum suggested that for some of us hosta folk, our affliction is more like obsessive compulsive disorder than like gardening! I laughed out loud, and thought she (or he) is probably right. If the shoe fits.....
Jan

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idiothe(4 MN)

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    Bookmark   June 13, 2013 at 5:09PM
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    Bookmark   June 13, 2013 at 5:11PM
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thisismelissa(z4a-S Twin Cities MN)

lol. I think many "collectors" fall into OCD tendencies. And yes, hosta collectors tend to also be a bit obsessive.

I have my main hosta garden + 3 other areas that have all hostas. I also have my heuchera garden. But then I also have 3 mixed perennial gardens.

The interesting thought here is that because I like to "collect", I find that my mixed perennial gardens tend to look more chaotic and not really very pleasing. But the hosta gardens... having the single unifying element, tend to be more harmonious..

Go figger.

    Bookmark   June 13, 2013 at 5:16PM
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ilovetogrow z9 Jax Florida

I know you are but what am I?
I know you are but what am I?
I know you are but what am I?

    Bookmark   June 13, 2013 at 6:00PM
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don_in_colorado

Oh well......I'd finish this post, but I have to go order more HOSTA!!!

Don B.

    Bookmark   June 13, 2013 at 6:03PM
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bernd ny zone5

I have perennials too. The front of my house is in sun, and there I have non-hosta perennials interspersed with conifers. Right now the ones in bloom look great for a week or 2 and then have only not too interesting leaves. I have to keep deadheading them or they look messy. Some of them will die or have a lot of seedlings. So after they bloom they are no longer interesting. Some will bloom later though.

In the back I have more shade and there most perennials do poorly, and there I have most of my hostas. Hostas do more of a show then other perennials, and for a longer time.
Bernd

    Bookmark   June 13, 2013 at 6:14PM
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flower_frenzy(8a)

My husband says I'm going to eventually star on that tv show "Hoarders" if I'm not careful!

    Bookmark   June 13, 2013 at 6:40PM
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rosie742001(z5Oregon)

There are worse obsessions you could ! have! I know a gal that hides things she buys from her husband, so he doesn't know how much she spends! You can't hide Hostas in a closet! (Well, I guess you can but they wouldn't last long!)

    Bookmark   June 13, 2013 at 7:33PM
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Gesila(MI Z5)

Definition of gardening:

"the activity of planning and looking after a garden"

Who does that better job of that than hosta lovers?

Gesila

    Bookmark   June 13, 2013 at 7:41PM
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Linda's Garden z6 Utah

I am obsessed and I admit it....hostas and dahlias. Hostas in the shade look great in the spring and early summer and the dahlias in the sun take the stage in late summer until frost. I don't want to give up either.

Linda

    Bookmark   June 13, 2013 at 8:15PM
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Ludi _PA_7a

    Bookmark   June 13, 2013 at 8:25PM
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don_in_colorado

Gesila.....D*mn right!

Don B.

    Bookmark   June 13, 2013 at 8:37PM
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Babka NorCal 9b

Yup. Don't Block the Exits!!!!!!!!!

-Babka

    Bookmark   June 13, 2013 at 9:58PM
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Marinewifenc

Even worse is the ocd agorophobic, I actually had both lol and blocking the exits sounds very tempting.

I need to feel at home
Hostas feel like home
I need hostas
Hostas make me smile
I need to smile more
I need more hostas

^that is exactly why I started on hostas

    Bookmark   June 14, 2013 at 7:58AM
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WILDernessWen

For me my OCD is about garden design and the health of my plants rather than collecting every variety. Obsessing over the weather, viruses, slugs, deer, rabbits, voles, aphids, planting depth, spacing, color, you name it. I have to remind myself that somethings I have no control over, mistakes are lessons, and so far the garden police have not arrested me. Have fun, have fun, have fun, have fun....WW

    Bookmark   June 14, 2013 at 8:42AM
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hostafreak

I am not obsessed,I'm convinced!! Phil

    Bookmark   June 14, 2013 at 9:23AM
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irawon(5a Ottawa)

Very interesting topic, Jan. I think most people obsess about one thing or another ... their homes, their cars, their jobs, their kids etc.

It's important to have a passion in life and for us here on the hosta forum its hostas. We probably obsess about other things too. My take on it ... if your obsession doesn't hurt you or others, then its OK.

I have a gardening friend who has a gorgeous garden ...not a hostaholic... she gets uptight if her plants touch one another...everything in her garden is beautifully spaced, orderly and coordinated. The result is someting that everyone enjoys.

I'm getting to the point where I prefer to garden in my shady beds ... fewer weeds grow there. I'm also trying to incorporate more shade perennials into my hosta beds.

I don't think gardening in general has anything to do with o.c.d. It has everything to do with creating and expressing yourself with plant material and you can't do that successfully unless you are willing to work at it and have the capacity to nurture.

    Bookmark   June 14, 2013 at 9:45AM
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beverlymnz4

Sounds like sour grapes to me. We're having more fun.

Beverly

    Bookmark   June 14, 2013 at 10:48AM
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Gesila(MI Z5)

LOL Beverly, yep, they're just jealous!

Gesila

    Bookmark   June 14, 2013 at 7:59PM
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don_in_colorado

Those are the people who scoff at us hosta gardeners publicly and then lurk here all day, looking at all of OUR pics! : )

Don B.

    Bookmark   June 14, 2013 at 8:04PM
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paula_b_gardener 5b_ON(5b)

Lol! Living in Canada, our time to garden is much too short so if I 'obsess' or love to garden 'too' much then so be it. I have to get it done while I can and the memories & pics have to last me another 7 or 8 months.

    Bookmark   June 14, 2013 at 11:26PM
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jadie88(7 MD)

Ok, I'll be honest here...as a longtime GW lurker and prowler, I stumbled on the hosta forum a couple years ago, totally unsuspecting. I browsed posts for ten minutes or so, decided you were all bonkers, and went back to look for a pretty flowery forum.

The next day, I found myself with hostas on my mind. Checked back in on the forum, confirmed that "yep, they're all bonkers in here," and moved on. But a funny thing started happening. I began actually SEEING the hostas when I walked the neighborhood. I began NOTICING their lush forms and painted leaves. Then I started browsing them in nurseries and pointing them out in garden mags. Then I realized I was lurking more and more often in that bonkers hosta forum with those bonkers hosta nuts.

Then one fateful night last fall I found myself placing online hosta orders at 2am while up with my newborn. And I realized I couldn't remember the last time the hosta forum sounded bonkers.

Guess I've gone native.

    Bookmark   June 15, 2013 at 12:33AM
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don_in_colorado

LOL Jadie, that's a great post!

Don B.

    Bookmark   June 15, 2013 at 12:41AM
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paula_b_gardener 5b_ON(5b)

Lol! Good one! and congrats on your baby (the real one, not the hostas).

Paula

    Bookmark   June 15, 2013 at 12:58AM
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Moccasin(z9aMobileAL)

Hey, Jadie, you've become one of us, honey! You also express it very well.

I suppose we do get a bit carried away. A passion for something beats the heck out of B-O-R-I-N-G.

    Bookmark   June 15, 2013 at 5:46PM
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bkay2000(8a TX)

Amen.

bk

    Bookmark   June 15, 2013 at 6:44PM
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mosswitch

OCD, what's that stand for? Obsession, Clovely, Delta Dawn? Or Olive Branch, Candy Dish, Dancing Queen? On Stage, City Lights, Dream Queen?

Sandy

    Bookmark   June 15, 2013 at 8:50PM
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don_in_colorado

Sandy, I always thought it stood for Ocean Isle, Cadillac and Deep Blue Sea!

Don B.

    Bookmark   June 15, 2013 at 9:23PM
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mosswitch

Or all of the above!

Sandy

    Bookmark   June 15, 2013 at 9:30PM
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chris-e(7 MD)

I have wondered if I should post this, I don't want to spoil anyone's fun, but we do not have OCD about hostas. We have a passion, as someone else said and a hobby and an interest and whatever else you want to call it. My grandson has OCD, and believe me, it is not fun.

Sorry, the subject is just a little too close to home for me.

chris

    Bookmark   June 16, 2013 at 12:26AM
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idiothe(4 MN)

Thanks for the reminder, chris. I'll join you in this serious divergence...

I used to have a similar concern about our talking about ourselves as "hostaholics." My personal and professional lives have been much involved with alcoholism and, given all the negatives, it makes it harder to go along with the humorous description.

I have, a couple of times, seen hosta collecting become a piece of mental health issues... actually, collecting can become hoarding and be a version of OCD... and someone who gets pleasure from acquiring hostas rather than growing them is not too different from the alcoholic seeking one more drink and the elusive high they used to get.

I say "I used to be more concerned" as I got comfortable with the way hosta people are making good-hearted humor about their passion... but there is no demeaning backlash on people actually suffering from mental health issues like OCD or alcoholism.

Always good to remind ourselves... but no harm done. Our best to you and your grandson. I was a counselor for 30 years and have OCD in a family member close to home - I know how rough it can be.

    Bookmark   June 16, 2013 at 10:35AM
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WILDernessWen

Hi Chris, Without going into a major bio I will admit that I too suffer from OCD and you're right, it is not fun. I went undiagnosed for over 50 years and am living proof that there is hope. May God guide your Grandson so he may enjoy all the blessings the world has to offer. Thank you for sharing.
Hugs, Wendy
p.s. speaking for myself I would say most gardeners are lovers of all creatures great and small and meant no harm. If I knew a way to keep aphids and slugs off my plants without killing them, I'd do it. GWF has given me wonderful Eco friendly advise on many of my gardening issues which has relieved some of my anxiety. I've laughed, I've learned, I've seen incredible pics of beauty, and I've been reminded to have fun and not take things so seriously. Thanks peeps! WW

    Bookmark   June 16, 2013 at 11:13AM
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WILDernessWen

Idiothe, we must have been posting at the same time. Ditto to what you said. My t-shirt should read.....
"ONE DAY-ONE GARDEN-ONE HOSTA AT TIME.". Thank you, Wendy

    Bookmark   June 16, 2013 at 11:26AM
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chris-e(7 MD)

Thanks for the replies Jim and Wendy. Your words meant a lot to me. It is tough because he is 12 and just moving into the difficult teen years. We thought he was just quirky for years but my daughter had the sense to take him to a psychologist and got a diagnosis and he is in counseling now.

I Almost deleted the post, I don't want anyone to think I am a kill-joy. This is all on this subject for me.

PS I thought the pot feet were hysterical!

chris

    Bookmark   June 16, 2013 at 5:25PM
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Moccasin(z9aMobileAL)

ChrisE, when the pot feet arrive, I'll show them proudly. :)

    Bookmark   June 16, 2013 at 6:05PM
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jadie88(7 MD)

My thoughts are with you and your grandson, ChrisE. Thank you for sharing. There is indeed an important distinction between good natured self-teasing of hosta enthusiasts and the very real affliction of OCD.

    Bookmark   June 16, 2013 at 7:23PM
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esther_b

The more green things (like HOSTAS) we plant, the more oxygen we are helping form, and the more CO2 we remove from the atmosphere. The more mellow greens and soft golden yellows in our environment, the more restful it is on the eyes. Let us not forget the good exercise it is to lug 30 and 50 lb. bags of soil and fertilizer, or stooping over and over again to plant our babies. It is psychologically beneficial to receive many compliments on our gardens.

And the downside is...?

    Bookmark   June 16, 2013 at 10:24PM
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chris-e(7 MD)

I don't think there is a downside, esther, unless it is the ruination of joints and back! I agree with you all the way about planting. Hubby and I moved into this house 6 years ago to avoid stairs because of bad backs and knees. Since then I have added 4 separate gardens of over 160 hosta and we have added numerous shrubs, 14 trees and other plants to a very empty grass lot. So much for the knees and backs!

chris

    Bookmark   June 16, 2013 at 11:58PM
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