Fellow Midwesterner here with neighbor problems, need to vent.
Hi. Sorry to vent to you guys, but sometimes I feel like fellow gardeners are the only ones that "get it". Over the last three years since we moved into our house (we bulit it) we have had numerous problmes with the neighboring kids. I mean I have three daughters (ages 3 to 6)so I know that kids will be kids. Well, before our house was built the kids all used our property as a cut through to get to a common area behind our property. There is a common entrance on the other side of the common area, but no one seems to use it. Right after we moved in we started planting and putting in beds and having our lawn treated. This is our first home and we love seeing the progress from our work. In the beigning we asked the kids nicely not to walk across our yard and to please use the sidewalks. I have taught my girls that unless they are invited then they are not to walk into others yards, and besides that I do not allow my girls out unsupervised. I have been called all sorts of names to my face and behind my back for being so unreasonable that their kids cannot use my yard a s a cut across. I have been hated by one of my neighbors because her daughter came over and was playing with my daughters and started kicking mulch out of my beds and I asked her to stop, she told me no and I told her that if she was going to behave like that then I would have to send her home, she tols me to shut up and I sent her home, now her mom thinks that I am the devil. Things have increasingly gotten worse. I tell the kids not to come into the yard, I mean the walk right through the beds, not four feet from my front door, and then the retaliation begins. They have turned on my faucets and drowned up perennial beds, they have cut down a new hedge I put in to 5 inches. The straw that "has broken the camel's back" is this weekend I was coming home from grocery shopping and pulled in the drive to see that the kids had made a beeline from their driveway (right next door) right through my front flower bed and to the common area. It's completely obvious since we have snow. I called up to the to get their attention and asked them please not to cut throught the yard, flower beds, etc. and to use the sidewalk. Well, the ingnored me and went on doing what they were doing, sleding down a ramp that that made in to my other neighbors newly planted trees. Then Sunday I go outside to check the coldframe and I can see that they climbed my fence to get something and the climbed right back over it, right in the middle of a beds that I filed with new perennials last fall. This fence is an arched shadow box, so climbing it is not an easy feat. Plus, I have told them before that if they lose a ball or something in the backyard to ring the doorbell and we will be happy to get it for them. Well, this time I sent my husband over and had him say something. He talked to them in the living room with their step dad and he felt it wnt fine and he came back home. About ten minutes later their mom came and rang the door bell. She started yelling at my husband telling him to tell me not to yell at her kids. He tried to explain that nothing would be said to the kids if they would just stay out of the yard. She kept on and so I got up and told her that she needed to keep the kids out of the yard (this has been going on for three years!) and she called me a b****. Knee jerk reaction I say you're the b****. I knw not a good thing to do. Anyway she yells have I been taking my medication, huh? and that she will keep her kids out of yard, but I better never yell at them again. I have spent the last two days in bed so upset over this whole thing. Wehn does someone that is trying to make a nice home become the bad guy because others can't control their kids. Anyway, any advice on how to cope would be great. We can't move right now because we would take a big loss on the house becasue of the neighborhood being so new. We are going to try to sell in a couple of years, but how do I make it until then? Thanks for listening :(