A Delicate Situation
I am a garden writer with expertise in a particular area. From time to time, I get inquiries from writers, graduate students, undergrads and others asking me for rather extensive information on my subject area. Often, what they want is something I have not yet published but have spent years in developing.
It has happened again. A friend, in all innocence, gave my name and email to a grad student who wants to know "all about" my rather large topic. I am in a double bind. Of course, I just want to say, "Go do your own research, hon, and earn your degree the hard way, as I did." But I would never be so rude.
I can never think of polite refusals and would be very grateful for any suggestions from the rest of you. This particular occurrence is all the more difficult because it came through a friend. I don't know how to tell her that I cannot oblige this request and fervently hope there are no more like it. Any ideas?