Perfect storm: white flies, aphids, beetles attacking tomatoes
I've got 11 tomato plants in 6 25-gallon smart pots (fabric aeration containers), all heirlooms. They were planted out six weeks ago and are now between 4 and 6 feet tall with several tomatoes forming on each one. I thought they were doing great, but in the past few days, one of two Paul Robesons and one of two Rostovas have completely wilted. In each case, the other plant in the same container seems fine.
On close inspection, I found aphids, white flies and eggs that look like they came from cucumber beetles (which I found elsewhere in the garden.) I also am battling Japanese beetles on my roses about 100 feet from the tomatoes. Watering did not cure the wilting. I treated these plants with neem oil twice in the past week, but each time it rained a few hours after the treatment. Now the plants are so wilted, and the flowers appear dried up and ready to die, I am wondering if I should just remove the wilted plants and cut my losses.
I am willing to use spinosad or safer insecticidal soap, but I don't want to use anything stronger. Any thoughts about what I should do?