Try the seed exchange on this forum. Hope this helps. She maybe talking about cleomne? Doris

I have a tree that my mother used to call Grandpa Whiskers. Can you describe the plant you are looking for? The one I have has very fragrant white whisker like blooms. My tree is old and it is appearing to be dying and I would love to know the correct name so I may get another. It blooms early spring.

The flower you are looking for is Cleome. It comes in pink, and white. It is a prolific reseeder...and can get very tall and rangy..so be careful...plant it where you REALLY want it. I don't know about the tree...why don't you try to propogate the tree?

it is Fringe tree (Chionanthus virginicus) I have seen them all over Virginia and now farther south I find they grow wild. They are amazing trees

Grancy gray beard?