Both cilantro and dill are cool weather plants, they do not like the heat. Same happens to me in southern California. You can extend the season a little by providing some shade, but they like both cold and sun ideally. So no worries, it is normal, just enjoy those herbs during the winter. Time to sow some basil now (and other warm weather herbs).

Both will always die after flowering and forming seeds. They do not last long after the seeds form. You may have fungus gnats. Tiny black flies and their maggots in the soil that feed on the roots. Both plants do not grow well in pots and do not transplant outside very well either. Dill is fine with heat, but cilantro is not. My dill self seeds every year now and I have mammoth, fernleaf, and Dukat dill all over every little crack in my cement patio.

They dfeinately had some sort of tiny little things all over the stems and leaves.
The lady bugs where eating them. Do affids eat celantro and dill? It is not really hot here yet. Night have been prety cool.
Also I keep them trimmed and do not allow the flowers and seeds to form will they continue to grow.
Same question about the basil I just planted ,,,Growing like crazy has seem heads trying to form 3 weeks after planting already, should I trim them off.
Should I trim the flowers and seeds off the parsley also , the plant is fine now?

Not all 'Lady bugs' are beneficial. There are a few strains with no spots or spots of a different count that can damage foliage. Neem spray is about the best you can do to reduce leaf chewing damages. Keep them trimmed will not prevent their life to death cycle. Cilantro initally forms flat parsley shaped leaves and then later one when bolting the leaves get thinner, narrower, as well as tougher, almost like ferns. Cutting off the flowers on Basil will help it bush out, but once they start flowering they are hard to deal with removing the blossom heads as they form and grow much faster.

bobbyrice, are these herbs planted in containers, or in your garden?

To answer your question about aphids: yes, they can be a pest on cilantro and dill. So can spider mites. If you observed ladybugs munching on these pests, it is likely that they are aphids.

Keep pinching off the flowers of the basil, as they appear.

If I pinch the flowers off the dil will it remain..
Should I bother planting another cilantro for the summmer?
Any way to keep one plant living year round or will I have to plant a new one every year?
They are planted in a bed on facing south on the side of the house.

No. Cilantro and dill are from the same life conditions. Removing all the flowers and seeds will not prolong its growing more leaves. The leaves on Cilantro will not be tender and flat anymore and the leaves on the dill will turn brown and die, just as I stated before. For many years, I have grown all types of dill, and there is no way to get a longer season out of it, but to plant new seeds every 3 weeks or so. They do not translant from pots to a garden very well either as I stared before. Cilantro also works better if you do sucessive plantings of seeds. The thiner leaves of the bolting cilantro will be bitter and tough. Basil will bush out when the flower heads are pinched off, but even for that, the basil will start to get leggy and the bottom fleaves die out while the stems get woody. Cilantro needs cool weather and not much sun, especially f you attempt to grow it in summer. Two things can happen, it will either suddely die or will bolt and then die quickly. Dill, does not form branches beyond single fern leaves, and wil nt bush out, and neither will cilantro.