Goodbye OBF's
Hello Girls,
This is going to be long, sorry.
Marie,
I do want to say that I was really looking forward to doing your swap next month, it sounded real fun, and esp being your first one I am sorry that I won't be in on it!
BUT, we will be going to WY in the near future, I can't remember the name of the place, but I know it is south of Sheridan and we are going to camp and fish, I know you like both, when I find out the details I will email you and maybe you could come join us! I would love to meet you!
Theresa and Susie,
I have to say I truly enjoyed both of your gifts! I NEVER expected such great boxes from a contest! The plants were wonderful, and I only expected to get 1 or 2 not a box stuffed to the gills! And Theresa, I know you said that you would have liked to have sent plants, but I was very happy with what you did send! I know it still took time and thought!
Thanks VERY MUCH to both of you!!
Carol,
I do hope you start feeling better, the 'p' can be a but kicker!
As far as telling the group about myself as you had asked awhile ago, I feel that I do tell the group about myself quite a bit in my posts. I no longer share as much personal info on here as I used to. Some of you may (or may not) remember last summer, I was living alone, Jamie was here in MT, I was working full time, taking care of my 2yr old, 4 acres, a house and planning a move across the country. I spoke quite a bit about what was going on in my life, TOO MUCH! I could have had a very close call, someone tried to track down my address, it was not a GW member, but you don't have to be to read these posts. So, I don't share stuff like that anymore.
As far as helping out with the organizing of the group, no, I won't be here to help, sorry.
And I think you gals make it so much harder than it has to be. I guess it may be a group preference, but I don't see the need for someone to have to keep updating every ones info. If I am in a swap with someone I can get their addy, and if I want to see what they want/have, I can look at their GW page. I feel that when you are in a group that are friends you get to know ppl and what they like/dislike, how many kids, pets, etc. that they have and don't need to make someone go through all that extra work. IMHO.
Also, as far as greeting new members, I do not have, will not try to find, and would not spend the time if I did have it, trying to decide who should be considered worthy to join this fine group, I would welcome anyone with a GW membership in good standing, new or old.
Anyhow, to get to the point. I am going to leave the group, I have been debating staying since I came back, thinking that things here would settle down, but it doesn't seem so. I hope to see some of you around in other groups, and hope you do not all take this personal. I am involved in other groups that I am much happier with. There is just too much bickering and behind the scenes crap that goes on here for me.
When I first found GW I met some super nice ppl in the plant exchange, then I found the RR forum! Loved it! Met some wonderful friends, and found a place to share so much with other ppl. And not just plants, everyday things, the good, the bad, the ugly, and everything in between! I had somewhere to go and vent about the frustrations in my life, share the good things, and many, many, much needed laughs and shoulders when I really needed them. But it seems that here, as it has been brought to my attention, we should only share things that some ppl find pertinent, interesting, and plant related.
And, when there is a problem, instead of discussing it openly, on the forum, it is sent via personal emails to those that are "felt" should be included. And it is discussed behind backs. I thought the OB in group was for "Our Bloomin" not OB the tampon, which some days it seems boxes of them are flying!
In another group there was a small issue a little while back, someone had an idea they wanted to do for something in the group, some liked it, some did not. Instead of getting personal emails telling them why they can not or should not do that, it was posted openly on the forum, and each member had a say in why they liked/disliked the idea. There were no hard feelings and it was a good idea, just one that not all ppl might have been able to do. That was explained to her and she understood. She was not "scolded" for coming up with it, or made to feel belittled. It was dropped, and we all happily moved on. Doesn't seem to be the case around here.
I don't know, nor do I care, what happened btwn Carol and Sassy. I don't want to be in the middle and I will not choose sides. I will form my own opinions of them on an individual basis as to how they treat me and how I see them treat others.
The main reason I have decided to leave was something that happened a little bit ago, and it was brought to my attention that we are allowed to only share things that certain ppl feel the rest of the group is interested in and wants to hear about. This was not only very upsetting to me, it REALLY pissed me off. And of course, this was done behind the scenes, one person feeling the need to make a decision for the whole group! And I also thought it was a very MEAN AND HURTFUL thing to do, and those that feel the need to reprimand, scold, or in any other way control the things that are discussed on here are not out to make friends, but maybe just have a need for control.
Ok, I have spoke my mind and feel much better now. I am not one to keep things inside, I too get migraines and tension HA's, and have high BP and I learned a long time ago that not "venting" makes them all so much worse.
I am sorry if I have offended anyone, that was not the purpose, it was just to state my feelings, and explain why I am leaving.
Please girls, enjoy your gardens, and more importantly enjoy your LIVES! It is way too precious and short to spend time on petty things that in the end will have only taken away time that could have been spent planting a flower, or enjoying a friend!
Take Care,
Vicky
Melissa, I almost forgot, I DO have an issue to discuss with YOU. But, since it happened on the PP forum, I will deal with you over there!
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