Thank you for your responses. You are right, and that is why it has continued for too long, the manager not approaching this properly. And the supervisor is condescending and demeaning, so you can imagine). In the past, I missed opportunities to have it witnessed when it seems she did not want to enter units during Covid. She would stand outside his door to listen, then not knock since she hadn’t heard loud audio. 😏 She also believes that if not hearing volume from a distance outside, then it must not be loud, and does not comprehend about Bass transference thru floors, walls, or amplifiers. 🤔 (Apparently that is suggested to do, but being in the instance of partying, fighting, yelling, as “nuisance noise” is considered being). Many times she would try to call him, but he would not answer or call her back and could not leave voicemail. (Then, it is forgotten about). If she ever did talk to him, it didn‘t matter. As mentioned, this type just continues on. I think I have mentioned his “talking back to her” when she spoke to him outdoors. She hasn’t understood how to handle this, when another might. It could have been resolve long ago. It’s funny, you would think she would after many complaints, do something. She’s nice, but seems passive. (It’s so frustrating and I would left in a flash if possible. I have felt stuck, the housing situation in So. CA being difficult for many). I have wanted to have her visit at the right moment, hoping it would not cease before she visited, but as said, is usually very late. (When the police visited, it was raining, and she doesn’t want to go outdoors then). Unfortunately, in the unit next to his “entertainment wall“ is a kitchen, and though the tenants were especially aware during his police visit aftermath when sleeping, they had not wanted to bother “writing the supervisor”. It has been futile. (I have asked anyone having lived next to me over time if they hear my TV or stereo, never having been an issue, but I am conscious of things, which is the difference). I believe that this would be handled differently elsewhere and if another tenant besides me would have resided here, the neighbor above would have been gone long ago. Part of the resistance to complaints stems from having had a couple of others prior be disruptive up there also, so I am seen as “being oversensitive”, when it is not the case and not being witnessed. ((sigh)) I did not experience this from most tenants here or in other buildings, so it has been very difficult, having had it doubted, assumptions made, on top of. Thanks for listening. I’m always glad to hear if others can get some resolve. This should be taken seriously.

try to stop worrying about it, bcs you know you're not too loud. When she bangs, it doesn't have anything to do with you! Do what us NYers do when we encounter unreasonable people: ignore, do not escalate, and distract yourself with whatever you can. And just use those banging sessions to motivate you to save even more aggressively (or to get a second job to generate more money, and so you don't have to listen to her bang on the wall, LOL!) And feel sorry for her husband--he has to cope with her all the time!

In comparison to some neighbors I've had, this guy sounds like living next door to the Cleavers.... Sounds like he's easily annoyed by noise - I think many of us can understand that. But I would guess by his comment that HE is bottling up anger at YOU just like you are towards him. Have you bothered to go over, have a cup of coffee and just ask in a kind way - "hey, last night when I was bringing in the trash I got the feeling I upset you, is that true?" See what he says. It's one thing to allow irrational people to ruin your lives, but many people are not good at confronting irritating behaviors directly, and in the long run, as the Bible tells us, it's better to address an issue face to face rather than building up anger and frustration. Be willing to listen - if making noise with your trash cans at 8:30 PM seems silly to you, you may feel differently when you're that age. I would expect showing some respect to an elder and seeking a resolution with a friendly spirit would get somewhere and help both parties not feel this growing frustration and anger. Dont' promise not to do something, but acknowledge the issue ("I didn't realize that bothered you, I'll try my best to avoid doing that when I can and I appreciate you letting me know that it's an issue, I didn't realize it and I want to be a good neighbors, I'm sure you do too...")

Mago you are right, I am starting to fall in love with my iMAC. I'm hoping by the time I pull the plug on the Dell I'll be talking marriage with the iMAC. ~LOL~ I looked on the GW Computer Forum and someone had the very same problem I did so I used his advice and removed a specific cookie and it seems to have fixed the problem...let's hope it stays fixed! I also downloaded Firefox and set it all up with my bookmarks etc., so if Safari fails I can always open with Firefox. Sorry for the talk about computers. Let's hope this is the last of it. I must say it was nice to know that I wasn't alone. Oh, I agree, the problem is at the GW site. Happy quilting! Susan