we exchanged emails. (if anyone wants to send her an email contact me) This is what she wrote back.

Thank you for your concerns. So, you knew Gary? I knew he corresponded with a lot of people about gardening. He loved it so much. I've had a hard time being in our house and seeing all the plants he nurtured. It's just really tough overall and I still can't believe he's gone. Well, just wanted to touch base with you and let you know I got the message.